You know that Gwyneth Paltrow movie- Sliding Doors? It showcased two parallel universes where Gwyneth loses her job and finds out her boyfriend is cheating on her. In one universe, she makes her subway train just in time to come home and catch her boyfriend in the act. In the other, she misses that train. How that split moment in time changed her entire life…
Authenticity is a buzz word these days, with everyone striving to be perceived as authentic. The irony of the filters not only placed on our physical body (due to the heightened awareness of others perception of us), but also the process of filtering our own voice, story, beliefs, ideas, leads us further away from ever being perceived as authentic.
So social media and I were in a relationship that just wasn’t working. In a “it's not you, it's me” kind of way… meaning I had the work to do.
I used to wait my life away and wasted years not being myself. Resisting everything I could be and could do. I’d go through the motions of a redundant routine hoping for a spark of motivation tomorrow, hoping that one day things would be different. Tomorrow always held the hope that I’d feel good enough to be myself, to take action, to put myself out there. I’d create problems that I’d need to fix. Listing things about myself that made me not ready. Did you know that shitty mindset is actually just resistance?
If you’re feeling stuck, negative, unmotivated and depressed, well it could be the energy around you to blame. Sure we give off energy but the space around us holds it too. As you may know, I just moved; new city, new house. I took it upon myself to go balls to the walls with making this new space feel good.
“Because if you love and want something enough – whatever it is – then you don’t mind eating the shit sandwich that comes with it.” Elizabeth Gilbert
What I want is to coach, to lead, to inspire, to help others follow their passion. My shit sandwich is fear of judgement.
Too often in coaching sessions people tell me they fantasize about escaping their current job or career. That their unhappiness and symptoms of depression are nothing but a byproduct of what they do for a living. And if the job were just to change, well then they’d find themselves living a completely different life. The intrigue of leaving the old behind and running to something new and exciting, chasing “freedom”, it's more than tempting. I know, I impulsively chased it and it was the best decision I ever made. Hard as hell at times but worth it. Which brings me to why I am writing this. There are small moments of glitz and glamour in this entrepreneur online world, which is what it being shown to you (social media). Awareness of what's behind the curtain will save you from blindly jumping towards it.
Ever feel like you’re floating from one job, one career to the next? Take it from someone who has done just that. The ridiculous amount of jobs I had in my twenties:
Fitness Instructor, undercover researcher, waitress, event planner for the olympics, real estate project manager, tennis instructor, communications coordinator, key leader at lululemon, nutritionist, life coach…All while floating from one degree to the next, 3 in total and countless certifications.
All the time spent aimlessly wandering from job to job, yet I knew exactly what I wanted: to work for myself. I just didn’t know how or when, but I knew I was meant for it.